WE CAN RESIST

I was thinking the other day (yeah I know I almost hurt myself) about how we are programed by nature and environment to mate mate mate but we are not told to wait ever. What I mean is that our bodies are programed to want to be with another person and we are told my relatives, TV, friends and so on that we are supposed to be with someone else and if we are not something is missing. I think this is how the divorce rate has climbed over the years. We are under so much pressure to just "be married" that we don't wait to find the right person.
Sometimes people really think they have and the other person has hidden major aspects from the other spouse such as addictions or so on. Other times people are just too young and instead of growing together they grow into different people so the love part could just not keep up.
I think for the most part the pressure from everyone just gets to people and they decide to jump in with both feet without looking. Kinda like a buy one get one free sale for shoes. You really don't like any of the other pairs of shoes but since the second pair is free you feel you have to get them. Of course that pair of great FREE shoes are never taken out of the closet again.
Pressure to get married and start a life (um what exactly are we doing before if not having a life? I don't think I am in frozen animation.)is on both men and women but its starts sooner with women. Yes that sounds sexist but its true. A man is considered a catch the longer he is not married, women are considered expired like bad milk. Relatives are always saying 'You will be next" or "what are you waiting for" well when people say these things to me I say "The guy that thinks no makeup been mowing the lawn look is sexy on me". I don't have to be next and neither do you if its not the right one. Sometimes you know you are great together but wait for a while anyway. Maybe the great one's breathing will get on your nerves so bad after 6 months you cant stand them, these things happen.

I'm not saying never marry (if I could find something like my brother relationship I'm keeping it, not perfect but perfect together) I'm just saying that there is nothing wrong with being happy and single. No one is going to be happy just because they are a couple. A partner can make a lot of great things happen in your life but they can not make you happy so don't just leap in because this person can walk and talk at the same time. Figure out what you want, need, and enjoy and then DATE but never be ashamed to say Table for ONE!