Drama Mamas

Being singe means your Friends come to you for advice (not sure why when they never listen to what I have to say and get mad when I get bosses, HELLO they know I'm going to try and fix it) and that is great but when it is drama that they create, then it is irritating because they really don't want the truth they want to be told everything is OK. Some men/women think that happiness for themselves depends on if they are a "couple". I think that if you cant make yourself happy how in the hell is someone else supposed to. A friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend "a great guy" that drank way to much, is into drugs, his family hates her, and has hit her more than once but she misses him. He made her happy. I have stood by my friend. I have gotten up at 2am to meet her in Walmart's parking lot to talk, picked her up when he has dumped her out of a car and offered to help sort out her money problems (the biggest one being she pays his bills, her bills, and cant budget). I have tried to support her and told her that I think she needed help to learn how to be alone even when she didn't want to hear it. I was worried because all she wants to do is sleep (sign of depression) but she said her therapist thinks she is fine (um not so much when you sleep 15 hour a day). I wanted her to go walking with me (exercise helps with depression) but she couldn't because "all she sees is couples being happy and she cant be happy without HIM". What the F? Happy does not mean you get slapped across your face at dinner time, this would never make me happy would it you? I know she does not want to see the abuse and she actually lives off it but still. How much can you blame on another person? Even if he was the GREAT guy, the Cary Grant of her dreams he could not make her happy if she doesn't know how to make herself happy.

Happiness-
1obsolete : good fortune : prosperity2 a: a state of well-being and contentment : joy b: a pleasurable or satisfying experience3: felicity, aptness (merriam-webster)
Happy-1: favored by luck or fortune : fortunate 2: notably fitting, effective, or well adapted : felicitous 3 a: enjoying or characterized by well-being and contentment b: expressing, reflecting, or suggestive of happiness c: glad, pleased d: having or marked by an atmosphere of good fellowship : friendly 4 a: characterized by a dazed irresponsible state b: impulsively or obsessively quick to use or do something c: enthusiastic about something to the point of obsession : obsessed (merriam-webster)

These are the definitions of Happy and Happiness. In these terms it does not say your happiness or joy in life depends on another person (although it does say obsessive is a term of happiness um can we say people are crazy). I will always be there for my Friend but I want to scream at her from time to time because she lets this madness into her life herself and then wonders why she is unhappy. I say laugh when you can, live in colors not black and white and realize that HAPPINESS is from inside yourself not inside others. BE proud to say TABLE FOR ONE if you are not a couple at the moment because those really yummy chips and dip are your favorite even if you are eating them by yourself.