PAST IS THE PAST

OK I know I'm jaded, just by reading my blog you know I'm jaded lol. The problem I'm having today is the people who are saying "The love of my life was my first boyfriend/girlfriend from High School" type of thing. Now there are people that marry their HS sweetheart and live happily ever after but those are not the people I'm talking about. I'm talking about the people who dated for a month, broke up, and have not seen each other in 20 years. Come on! Wake up and smell the coffee here. You don't even know that person anymore.

Think back to HS for me it has been more than 15 years. I would not even wear most of the clothes I wore back then (even though some have come back into fashion) or do bullet proof hair (yes mainly the 80's and early 90's). I have become someone else since HS. Yes I still have the basic traits but at the same time those have evolved to new levels. The same reality is for everyone. You don't really know someone you have not seen in 15 years, experience changes all of us for the good or the bad. Maybe that extra bubbly cheerleader is now a depressed house wive or the depressed loner is the center of attention. The awkward kids are now the CEO of a company or the football player is still living in his Mom's basement. You Don't Know!

Our tastes change including food,movies, books, political stance, going green, meat eater or veggie. It all changes. So with all this change how can that person (that you haven't spoken to in years) be the love of your life NOW. They can't. They might have been the love of your life at 15 and the one person you always FANTASIZED as perfect but in this moment right now they are a stranger that you probably wouldn't even recognize on the street.

Basically what I am saying is STOP LIVING IN THE PAST, because you are going to miss what is going on in life NOW. The future is not here, the past is gone, but this moment will only be here once. Live it as it is happening.